Please, take a seat
I notice you’re reading my page
Have you found my page perhaps because you feel hurt, sad, anxious, angry, nervous, ashamed or lonely?
Maybe you lack confidence or self esteem. Maybe your social or intimate relationships are causing you stress. Maybe you lack self-care or your excesses have affected you destructively. Maybe, quite simply, life could be better.
Most of all, neither searching the internet nor self help books have been enough, and you need someone to talk to. Someone who will listen to you without judgement, and who will acknowledge your sometimes overwhelming feelings.
Alternatively, you may be looking for therapy to help develop yourself as a person. I offer that too.
“… gently encouraging you to put words to your thoughts and feelings in the security of a confidential, boundaried, therapeutic relationship.”
My approach is integrative. For short term work I am likely to draw on personal construct psychology, exploring how we make meaning in our lives. Longer term work is likely to take a more psychodynamic approach, where we explore unconscious processes that affect us and how we defend against these affects. We consider how early relationships reveal themselves in the way we relate to each other. As your counsellor, that’s some of what I will be thinking about as I listen to you.
What you will experience is an empathic listener, gently encouraging you to put words to your thoughts and feelings in the security of a confidential, boundaried, therapeutic relationship.
Within counselling I have particular interests in relationships in all their expressions, workplace stress and helping people towards confidence and empowerment.
“… regardless of age, sex, sexual orientation, race and history.”
Counselling with me
As a qualified and experienced counsellor, I will work with you through your difficult times. I offer counselling to adults regardless of age, sex, sexual orientation, race and history.
For those unfamiliar with counselling, starting out can feel unusual. We’re not used to the attentiveness, and the sometimes uncomfortable experience where we share our stories, thoughts and feelings with thoughtful reflections delivered in return by someone who cares. And it may take some time to feel sufficiently comfortable about expressing things that we’ve been holding onto for so long, perhaps without realising it.
At the first session, I will take some essential details from you and give you a chance to speak your mind – what brings you to counselling, for example. I will listen and communicate my understanding of your situation. And we will work at a pace which is right for you. The mutuality of the counselling relationship means we are both stakeholders in the process.
“…you will want to choose the counsellor who is the right therapeutic partner for you.”
The next step
Choosing a counsellor is a personal decision. Some like the safety net of choosing a counsellor who they will like, including their age, sex etc. Perhaps someone who reminds them of a kindly relative. Others choose a counsellor less within their comfort zone, to challenge themselves, or they choose their counsellor because of their particular experience or expertise. Indeed the process by which you choose your counsellor provides for therapeutic reflection in itself! My own opinion is to be open minded and to see what happens.
Often, having made the decision, we are impatient to start seeing a counsellor. And there is little to go on simply looking at websites and calling cards. However I have deliberately presented this page in a way that gives you a flavour of what I am like, to help you choose. Even after we meet for the first time or first few times, you are under no obligation to continue working with me. For longer term work especially, you will want to choose the counsellor who is the right therapeutic partner for you.
If you have any questions or would like to book an appointment, please contact me (scroll down) using the form or contact details below. My fee for a 50 minute session is £50, payable by card or cash.
PgDip, MSc Counselling, MBACP
It's hard to say how I was drawn to counselling. It seemed so obvious at the time, yet so hard to put into words. Often, trying to make sense of our thoughts and feelings is what we're dealing with as humans, and that can sometimes be difficult or distressing.
After working in the engineering then financial sectors, I studied counselling, attaining a PgDip in 2007, then an MSc in 2008. Working part time for ten years, I finally left my job in financial services in 2017, and now with eleven years of post-qualification experience, I offer counselling at Eyre Place Osteopathic Practice in Edinburgh's New Town.
I am a registered member of BACP and consequently practise within their ethical framework, which includes minimum levels of supervision and continuing professional development.